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The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts by Gary Chapman


Over the summer I tried to read a few books on Christian marriage. I have been married for only 4 years and I did take a pre-marriage counseling course before getting married, as required through my church, however I felt that a little more insight into marriage could be helpful. This book was highly recommended to me by many of my Christian friends, so I figured why not!

I am always much more pleased with a book if it is an easy read since I'm a mother and don't have an unlimited amount of time to spend on personal reading. I am glad to say this book was quick read. Surprisingly enough for a quick read it made some great points.

Chapman, a Christian Marriage Counselor for 25 years, shares his thoughts and wisdom on marriage through the five love languages he has come across in his experience. It was great because even after only 4 years of marriage I sometimes feel like there is a disconnect between my husband and myself on what I want and what I think he wants. Don't get me wrong, we have a solid relationship, but still it is hard to really connect sometimes. By figuring out each other's love languages we are able to really communicate so that we can truly understand what the other desires.

Sure there are no real miracles shared in this book. It is mainly about honing in on your communication skills with your spouse, and that is not a new concept for marriage. However Chapman's 5 love languages are interesting and eye-opening.

If you decide to give this book a shot, I would suggest having your spouse also read it with you. It led to some great conversations between me and my spouse and has helped me feel like the effort I put into my marriage is worth it. In fact I know it has made my efforts more effective because I can see the results, even subtle ones in how we interact. If you are looking for a little encouragement on how to work on your marriage so you do not end up in the divorce statistics I would recommend this book.

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